Interesting article from a dad writing about his son’s school having a condom club where they are given free food and a condom 12-pack each week. Now no one will be surprised that this is Berkeley High School. What I found interesting was the father was kind of scandalized by this development, though it was a very low-level outrage. The fathers attitude drips with the very permissiveness that leads to condom clubs in the first place.
For example he was more surprised by the number of condoms given more than the fact that the school was supplying them in the first place.
Where did they come up with the number 12?
Twelve condoms a week! I don’t know sex workers who need that many condoms. Certainly none of my middle-age friends need 12 condoms a week. High school students do?
Well obviously the even dozen was to not hurt the precious self-esteem of students. This prevents the student from having to exaggerate the quantity he needs each week by requesting them individually or to admit that he still has leftovers from the previous week.
I was stewing over the Condom Club for a few weeks when I finally got the nerve to ask my son whether he joined. "No, dad, I didn’t." I wasn’t sure whether to be glad or sad, since I didn’t have the nerve to ask him whether he’s having sex.
I just told him that his teachers are right: When he does finally have sex, he must wear a condom.
When I tried to demonstrate how to use one, he stopped me and, shaking his head, said, "Dad, they taught us in sixth grade."
Oh. You never mentioned it.
Then I told him one other thing. I told him if he ever needs 12 condoms in a week, he’ll be a very happy young man.
Great advice for a high school freshman that you are to measure happiness by the number of condoms you use.
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I hope there is an especially nasty place in hell for parents who abuse their children in this manner.
Didn’t Jesus say something about woe to those who would be a stumbling block and lead the children to sin?
My guess is that these students are to be the missionaries, handing out condoms to friends and what-not: party favors. Maybe one day there will be a whole army of these brown-nosers.
As a mother of a daughter who is a preteen, I am horrified by this Father’s attitude … It reminded me of a female friend years ago telling me she was glad she had a son because she won’t need to worry about the “sex & pregnancy” thing with him …. Both these parents do a disservice to their sons and to the girls & women who might befriend them …. very sad.
Yes, I believe He said it would be better for them if they had a millstone tied around their necks and be cast into the sea (the millstone drowning as the alternative preferable to what will happen to these lost souls should they lead astray these little ones.)
…”I didn’t have the nerve to ask him whether he’s having sex….”
Scary..God help these children.
So let me get this straight, the dad said “I didn’t have the nerve to ask him whether he’s having sex”, but the dad DID HAVE THE NERVE to say THIS to his son “I told him if he ever needs 12 condoms in a week, he’ll be a very happy young man”.
Wow. I knew some parents were liberal about their kids getting condoms at school, but to put in print this skeezy comment to his own child? Wow. That is truly frightening.
“Then I told him one other thing. I told him if he ever needs 12 condoms in a week, he’ll be a very happy young man.”
Yeah, until the kid discovers he has a few children by different girls and will pay child support for the next 18 years, a whomping huge case of genital warts and old-fashioned case of antibiotic resistant gonherroea. Happy indeed.
Don’t even ask me what I think about this poor-excuse of a father. I might end up doing some long-term purgatory over it….
Twelve condoms a week! I don’t know sex workers who need that many condoms.
But apparently he does know sex workers; how many condoms do they need?
“I hope there is an especially nasty place in hell for parents who abuse their children in this manner”
I’m sure there is, but we should NEVER wish any soul to go there. Jesus is merciful and we should be too. Yes, I know He is coming to judge BUT, I also know He is merciful because He left us the sacrament of penance. No matter what we do in this life, God always loves us and wants us to be with Him. On the other hand, satan doesn’t. Pray that these people will repent before that awful day of judgement that will come on ALL of us.
And just exactly whom should we thank or at least acknowledge for this progressive turn of events?
Though Berkeley may indeed be a fine school, I am sure that among their parents and faculty they could never have collectively dreamed up the evil creativity needed for this abomination. They simply are not that bright in spite of their scores.
No, it comes from our modern liberal culture and moreover from our lazy, hedonistic liberal Catholics especially a number of failed and potentially damned prelates who would rather do touch and feel at their “peace and justice” committee meetings regarding issues and problems that they know nothing about than to deal with the horrors that lurk a thin wall away.
I would suggest that the next USCCB meeting might want to make a collective act of contrition for themselves. Especially in certain diocese known for their utter disregard of any value with the exception of public relations.
As the old WWII vets might say, “You there the big guy in LA, close down the cathedrel, Fella, and get down on your knees.
Heaven knows my old father was not perfect, but he’d have cut off his arm before he said such a thing to a boy of that age. And if my mother had so much as hinted anything of the kind to me, I’d never have gotten over the shock and the feeling of defilement. How can people do these things?
Without minimizing his sin, we should be praying for this father’s conversion rather than talking about the “millstone” he deserves!
I would have said the same thing – or very similar things – to my kids before my conversion, thinking that I was being “funny” and “realistic.” God help me! But I am proof that even someone this ignorant can be converted. (And, yes, if someone had given me a forum, I would have been stupid enough to write an article about it.)
Believe me, I think often enough about the “millstones” that I deserve for the things I’ve done to my children. But God in his infinite mercy forgives the parent and heals the wounded children.
We should never forget that.
Without minimizing his sin, we should be praying for this father’s conversion rather than talking about the “millstone” he deserves!
Yes, it goes without saying that we should pray for conversion, but we also must not forget the spirtual work of mercy which is admonishing sinners.
Ahh! I am so very scared now…
I am a teenage girl, and the thought of that in our school just alarms me. This is teaching students that hacing sex is okay at their age, and it’s not.
That father’s response scares me as well, and I hope to God that it was a joke. It was, wasn’t it? Please?
If my mother were to say something of that affect to me, or I thought my boyfriend’s father/step-father had said something like that to him, I would run. Now..I’m not very fast, so whom ever had said it would eventually catch me, but I would scream my head of as I did it, to hopefully alert someone else…
Wow.
I feel bad for both father and son… and any female with whom they have relationships. The father comes across as being afraid he’s behind the times. In a permissive culture, being uncool is worse than sinning. Everything becomes a matter of avoiding consequences.
I well remember at my college when people not only handed out condoms and waterdams at orientation, but also pamphlets on various sexual practices that I’d never have imagined. It was done in the spirit of preventing AIDS, but it came across as vulgar and insulting. We were students, not horny co-eds from some B-movie!
Beth, I relate. I’m a high school junior, and I live in a very liberal town. The boys in town are so perverted already, pushing this on them…
this makes me so angry, putting it lightly. I would end up exploding at them. I would want to tell them to… well, being a Christian woman, I can’t say it.
“…I didn’t have the nerve…”
That is one of the saddest statements I’ve ever heard from a father. Our children are counting on more than just nerve from their dads, they’re counting on them to sacrifice — lay down their lives if they have to.
That statement implies fear. Why are parents afraid of their children, and why are they specifically afraid of telling them directly what will put them and others (such as premarital sex) in harms way?
Why are so many parents afraid to be moral teachers for their children? How do they think the children will learn values?
*shaking head*
Well, the education system is full of liberals. They want to have an anything goes society. Marriage is a gift, children are a result of the marital gift. Sex is not a sport. 1 in 4 have a STD, so planned parenthood has failed.
it doesn’t help that in public schools (particularly high school) they push sex and do barely anything to prevent people from doing obscene things in the hallways or in the classroom (particularly during sex ed). They tell kids in sex ed they can say the “p” word (I can’t say it, I feel too weird) and not be in trouble for it, or basically anything else. The explain the “dangers” of unsafe sex, which are preventable by a condom (like a piece of plastic over your genitals is the answer to all your problems).
Why is the world so blind????